On Friday, October 21, a BC judge allowed us to proceed pending personal service on my ex. FMEP has muddied the waters with this issue, but so be it. Mr. Justice Walker also ordered a stay to all enforcement by FMEP until the case is heard (and presumably resolved). FMEP has yet to contact my employer to stop the garnishment of my wages. My lawyer has provided them today with a registered copy of the order. Hopefully that will be sufficient to remove the garnishment from this pay cheque. It is very difficult to support both of us on half of my pay. Also, FMEP stated, in writing, that they would hold the garnished monies until this issue was resolved. Then, in court, their lawyer Alan Leslie admitted that the funds had been forwarded to California, which makes them basically unrecoverable. This unrecoverable amount now totals $9365.
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Thursday, 27 October 2011
Thursday, 15 September 2011
NUMBERS: What should I have paid vs what FMEP wants to enforce
We have entered the following (or will enter, given today's events) into evidence:
Amount I earned from 1992 to 2005, when the youngest son reached majority: $172,733
Amount assessed for child support by California and enforced by FMEP: $193,203
Paid to date by me: $126,362
What I should have paid under wage adjusted guidelines: $27,996
The child support burden imposed by Cali and enforced by BC: 112% of my earned income for the period.
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Amount I earned from 1992 to 2005, when the youngest son reached majority: $172,733
Amount assessed for child support by California and enforced by FMEP: $193,203
Paid to date by me: $126,362
What I should have paid under wage adjusted guidelines: $27,996
The child support burden imposed by Cali and enforced by BC: 112% of my earned income for the period.
Is something wrong with this picture?
Friday, 13 June 2008
LEAF granted leave to intervene!
LEAF has been granted leave to intervene!!! Here is what they have to say about the case:
Some of the issues of importance in Rick v. Brandsema for LEAF and West
Coast LEAF include:
a women's consistent disadvantage and inequitable results in family
law settlement agreements - leading to barriers of women's economic
independence and survival;
serious and unique challenges for rural farm wives;
advancing equality analysis in an area of law which has enormous
effects on women and children;
re-defining the understanding and reviewing the value processes of
negotiation-based resolutions in family law; and
women, mental illness and family law
This case offers opportunity to influence and advance family law and
thereby women's economic potential.
Some of the issues of importance in Rick v. Brandsema for LEAF and West
Coast LEAF include:
a women's consistent disadvantage and inequitable results in family
law settlement agreements - leading to barriers of women's economic
independence and survival;
serious and unique challenges for rural farm wives;
advancing equality analysis in an area of law which has enormous
effects on women and children;
re-defining the understanding and reviewing the value processes of
negotiation-based resolutions in family law; and
women, mental illness and family law
This case offers opportunity to influence and advance family law and
thereby women's economic potential.
Friday, 2 May 2008
THERE IS A PROGRAM FOR ABUSED ANIMALS-WHAT ABOUT ABUSED PEOPLE???
IMITATION IS THE SINCEREST FORM OF FLATTERY
Nanc found out about this program run by Rescue Ink in the U.S.. It looks a lot like our Family Violence Education Initiative, with one big difference. Maybe we should get tatooed all over!?
This is not the first time that we have noticed that animals get more protection than women, children, and the elderly in our society.
The School Visitation Initiative
sign up now
In conjunction with law enforcement and animal control officials, Rescue Ink members visit elementary and middle schools, presenting a program designed to instill an appreciation of the value of animals, and to teach children how to spot and properly report instances of animal abuse and neglect. The curriculum fosters respect and consideration for animals via one-on-one interaction with positive role models, and contact with rescued animals.
The Rescue Ink members who participate in the School Visitation Initiative Program say that the experience gives them a feeling of nostalgia, and reminds them of their days attending school. We even have a member who likes to drop by the Principal's office in every school he visits. After all, he told us, it's where he spent most of his time.
Nanc found out about this program run by Rescue Ink in the U.S.. It looks a lot like our Family Violence Education Initiative, with one big difference. Maybe we should get tatooed all over!?
This is not the first time that we have noticed that animals get more protection than women, children, and the elderly in our society.
The School Visitation Initiative
sign up now
In conjunction with law enforcement and animal control officials, Rescue Ink members visit elementary and middle schools, presenting a program designed to instill an appreciation of the value of animals, and to teach children how to spot and properly report instances of animal abuse and neglect. The curriculum fosters respect and consideration for animals via one-on-one interaction with positive role models, and contact with rescued animals.
The Rescue Ink members who participate in the School Visitation Initiative Program say that the experience gives them a feeling of nostalgia, and reminds them of their days attending school. We even have a member who likes to drop by the Principal's office in every school he visits. After all, he told us, it's where he spent most of his time.
Friday, 29 February 2008
HEARING DATE SET!
OCTOBER 17th IS THE DAY!
Sorry to all that are following this blog for not posting more often lately.
The hearing date is set, and I think we are, as well.
We have been feeling pretty beat up by this whole incredibly drawn out process. It has sapped our energy and our resources. I am working again, to keep the wolves from the door, and we are selling our house. Would we do it again? You betcha! Is it hard on us? Brutal. But, at the end of the day, Nanc has a chance to change things for thousands of women.
There is no turning back or walking away.
We wait, and survive......
Sorry to all that are following this blog for not posting more often lately.
The hearing date is set, and I think we are, as well.
We have been feeling pretty beat up by this whole incredibly drawn out process. It has sapped our energy and our resources. I am working again, to keep the wolves from the door, and we are selling our house. Would we do it again? You betcha! Is it hard on us? Brutal. But, at the end of the day, Nanc has a chance to change things for thousands of women.
There is no turning back or walking away.
We wait, and survive......
Tuesday, 4 December 2007
OFF TO OTTAWA AND BRIEFING NOTES ON NANC'S CASE
We are flying to Ottawa for the next few days. The trip is first and foremost for the resolution of my case, but we will take the opportunity to circulate the following briefing notes and talk to key people about Nanc's case. I will have the spotlight for a bit starting Thursday, and I plan to use that to illuminate the dark world of family violence.
Briefing notes: Supreme Court of Canada Rick vs. Brandsema
With close to half of all marriages ending in dissolution, the increasing affluence of middle and upper middle class Canadians, and the vast majority of couples resolving their financial issues by way of agreements, the duties of spouses in the formation of family law agreements is of critical national importance.
On April 18, 2007, three male judges of the Appeals Court of British Columbia rendered a decision in the case of Rick vs. Brandsema that removes any hope for women in abusive relationships.
The effect of this decision is to say to those women that matters of conscience, justice, equality, equity, and fairness, do not apply to them. It matters not that there was a power imbalance in the relationship, lack of sophistication of the victim, proven fraud on the part of the abuser, diagnosed and treated Post Traumatic Stress, and emotional fragility clearly demonstrated in court. If an abusive spouse can withhold information, hide money, and con you into signing a patently unfair agreement, you are done and no one cares.
Apparently British common law no longer works for women in Canada. That bastion of fairness that protected the average person from bad applications of statutory law, is irrelevant now. The abusive spouse can coerce you, con you, hide things from you, use your children against you, beat you down until you are just breathing, and then: if you sign it, you are done and no one cares.
When the letter of statutory law becomes more important than the people it is meant to serve and protect, it is fatally flawed. We do not believe that it was the intent of those who drafted or enacted our laws that they be applied in such an unforgiving, inflexible, and unjust manner. We do not believe that it was the intent of legislators to deprive abused women of hope, and of their rights. The Charter of Rights, Freedoms, and Responsibilities speaks to a fundamental right to equality under the law. Does “equality” mean that an undereducated woman that has been kept in an isolated farm culture, where lack of real information or outright misinformation and tolerance of spousal abuse is the norm, stands before the court on an equal footing with her “husband”, a sophisticated wife beater that sits on numerous corporate and organizational boards? Is she equal when she signs documents that she cannot see, let alone understand? Does the Charter err in demanding equality for each man and woman vs. fairness in circumstance? We do not believe that the Charter excludes consideration of circumstances, but will leave that issue to scholars to debate. If it is true, then the Charter is fatally flawed as well.
This decision has created a legal precedent that offends every sense of conscience. It indicates a fundamental erosion of the rights that suffragettes fought for over the last hundred years, and is an erosion of our commitment to human rights in this country. Women comprise some 50% of the votes, we think there is a base for some political action here. It is time for women and men of conscience to stand united once again to demand fairness and real justice before the courts.
Ms. Rick has applied for, and been granted leave to bring this matter before the Supreme Court of Canada. The leave panel included Chief Justice Beverly Maclachlin and Justices Charron and Rothstein.
Ms. Rick feels that it is a matter of national importance and wishes to know if the appeals court ruling is, in fact, the will of the Canadian justice system. She does not believe that “no one cares.” She asks that you review this decision and, if you decide that you do care, take action to let the Supreme Court of Canada know how you feel. Please circulate this message to others who may also care. The fundamental right of fair treatment of all abused women, and men, before the law is at stake.
The issues at law:
This is an important case on the formation of family law agreements, involving the duty of disclosure, unconscionability, undue influence, the meaning of independent legal advice, and the effect of consent dismissal orders on statutory review.
The current leading SCC cases - Miglin v. Miglin and Hartshorne v. Hartshorne, did not address what would constitute review for procedural fairness. Rick v. Brandsema will give our highest court an opportunity to hopefully establish better guidelines as to the duties of parties in the formation of family law agreements.
To encourage people to settle their domestic financial affairs by way of agreements, the rules leading to the formation of these agreements have to be clear. What are the duties of separating spouses in the settlement process as to disclosure and the mental and emotional state of their spouses?
Link to SCC case info:
http://cases-dossiers.scc-csc.gc.ca/information/cms/docket_e.asp?32098
Briefing notes: Supreme Court of Canada Rick vs. Brandsema
With close to half of all marriages ending in dissolution, the increasing affluence of middle and upper middle class Canadians, and the vast majority of couples resolving their financial issues by way of agreements, the duties of spouses in the formation of family law agreements is of critical national importance.
On April 18, 2007, three male judges of the Appeals Court of British Columbia rendered a decision in the case of Rick vs. Brandsema that removes any hope for women in abusive relationships.
The effect of this decision is to say to those women that matters of conscience, justice, equality, equity, and fairness, do not apply to them. It matters not that there was a power imbalance in the relationship, lack of sophistication of the victim, proven fraud on the part of the abuser, diagnosed and treated Post Traumatic Stress, and emotional fragility clearly demonstrated in court. If an abusive spouse can withhold information, hide money, and con you into signing a patently unfair agreement, you are done and no one cares.
Apparently British common law no longer works for women in Canada. That bastion of fairness that protected the average person from bad applications of statutory law, is irrelevant now. The abusive spouse can coerce you, con you, hide things from you, use your children against you, beat you down until you are just breathing, and then: if you sign it, you are done and no one cares.
When the letter of statutory law becomes more important than the people it is meant to serve and protect, it is fatally flawed. We do not believe that it was the intent of those who drafted or enacted our laws that they be applied in such an unforgiving, inflexible, and unjust manner. We do not believe that it was the intent of legislators to deprive abused women of hope, and of their rights. The Charter of Rights, Freedoms, and Responsibilities speaks to a fundamental right to equality under the law. Does “equality” mean that an undereducated woman that has been kept in an isolated farm culture, where lack of real information or outright misinformation and tolerance of spousal abuse is the norm, stands before the court on an equal footing with her “husband”, a sophisticated wife beater that sits on numerous corporate and organizational boards? Is she equal when she signs documents that she cannot see, let alone understand? Does the Charter err in demanding equality for each man and woman vs. fairness in circumstance? We do not believe that the Charter excludes consideration of circumstances, but will leave that issue to scholars to debate. If it is true, then the Charter is fatally flawed as well.
This decision has created a legal precedent that offends every sense of conscience. It indicates a fundamental erosion of the rights that suffragettes fought for over the last hundred years, and is an erosion of our commitment to human rights in this country. Women comprise some 50% of the votes, we think there is a base for some political action here. It is time for women and men of conscience to stand united once again to demand fairness and real justice before the courts.
Ms. Rick has applied for, and been granted leave to bring this matter before the Supreme Court of Canada. The leave panel included Chief Justice Beverly Maclachlin and Justices Charron and Rothstein.
Ms. Rick feels that it is a matter of national importance and wishes to know if the appeals court ruling is, in fact, the will of the Canadian justice system. She does not believe that “no one cares.” She asks that you review this decision and, if you decide that you do care, take action to let the Supreme Court of Canada know how you feel. Please circulate this message to others who may also care. The fundamental right of fair treatment of all abused women, and men, before the law is at stake.
The issues at law:
This is an important case on the formation of family law agreements, involving the duty of disclosure, unconscionability, undue influence, the meaning of independent legal advice, and the effect of consent dismissal orders on statutory review.
The current leading SCC cases - Miglin v. Miglin and Hartshorne v. Hartshorne, did not address what would constitute review for procedural fairness. Rick v. Brandsema will give our highest court an opportunity to hopefully establish better guidelines as to the duties of parties in the formation of family law agreements.
To encourage people to settle their domestic financial affairs by way of agreements, the rules leading to the formation of these agreements have to be clear. What are the duties of separating spouses in the settlement process as to disclosure and the mental and emotional state of their spouses?
Link to SCC case info:
http://cases-dossiers.scc-csc.gc.ca/information/cms/docket_e.asp?32098
Thursday, 29 November 2007
LEAVE GRANTED!!!
We are going to the Supreme Court of Canada!
Leave was granted today for Nanc's case to proceed. We have been expecting it for the last few weeks, hence nothing to report. It has been a tense time but now another hurdle has been passed. Jack (Nanc's lawyer) is excited about the opportunity to craft new law setting down much needed guidelines for the process of forming agreements in family law. That is really the core of Nanc's case. It is unconscionable that a stronger spouse can literally hold a gun to the other spouse's head to force him or her to sign an agreement, and then have that agreement be unassailable by legal means. That was the gist of the Appeals Court's decision, and it can not be allowed to stand!
More later, we are too excited.........
Leave was granted today for Nanc's case to proceed. We have been expecting it for the last few weeks, hence nothing to report. It has been a tense time but now another hurdle has been passed. Jack (Nanc's lawyer) is excited about the opportunity to craft new law setting down much needed guidelines for the process of forming agreements in family law. That is really the core of Nanc's case. It is unconscionable that a stronger spouse can literally hold a gun to the other spouse's head to force him or her to sign an agreement, and then have that agreement be unassailable by legal means. That was the gist of the Appeals Court's decision, and it can not be allowed to stand!
More later, we are too excited.........
Monday, 29 October 2007
Still between
Well, the time between tick and tock has become longer than we expected. Tock is now 2 weeks late, but it is still coming!
In the mean time, my big court battle has been resolved to my satisfaction. We reached an agreement in principle with the other parties and are now just working out the logistics of doing that which has never been done. Tick and tock again, but mine will resolve on December 4,5,or 6 or the agreement goes down the drain. I don't think either side wants that to happen. Watch the national news and CPAC during this period, it will be historic.
There is that old Chinese curse about living in interesting times.....
In the mean time, my big court battle has been resolved to my satisfaction. We reached an agreement in principle with the other parties and are now just working out the logistics of doing that which has never been done. Tick and tock again, but mine will resolve on December 4,5,or 6 or the agreement goes down the drain. I don't think either side wants that to happen. Watch the national news and CPAC during this period, it will be historic.
There is that old Chinese curse about living in interesting times.....
Thursday, 11 October 2007
THE TIME BETWEEN TICK AND TOCK
We have learned that much of life exists between the tick and tock of events. We are in such a place now. One great event has occurred, and we must wait for the inevitable tock that follows. "Tock" occurs (god willing and the creek don't rise)on next Tuesday, October 16th. I will be posting about it, but right now I don't want to throw any monkey wrenches into the clockworks (to extend the metaphor perhaps a bit too far). In the mean time, I want to share some quotes on fear that struck Nanc and I as appropriate to this time:
Eleanor Roosevelt:
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
Marcus Aurelius:
If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.
David Oliver-Godric:
Fear is one of the essences of what it is to be alive. Courage is to have fear but act anyway, cowardice is to have fear and fail to act. Life is about action, failing to act is the same as being dead, although even the dead act as fertilizer so perhaps it is worse.
See you Tuesday!
Eleanor Roosevelt:
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
Marcus Aurelius:
If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.
David Oliver-Godric:
Fear is one of the essences of what it is to be alive. Courage is to have fear but act anyway, cowardice is to have fear and fail to act. Life is about action, failing to act is the same as being dead, although even the dead act as fertilizer so perhaps it is worse.
See you Tuesday!
Thursday, 4 October 2007
NUTSHELL - PART 2
The abuser appealed and won his appeal before 3 male judges who had little family law background. They were corporate contract lawyers. Their mantra was "if you sign it you are done, regardless". In their finding, they say some very bizare things. According to them, Nanc knew perfectly well what she was doing when she signed the documents (that she couldn't even read), She had access to a lawyer and accountants, and it isn't the abuser's fault that they were incompetent and relying on the abuser's fraudulent financial info. The appeals court dismissed the trial judge's findings of fact. Nanc has appealed to the SCC to overturn the BC Appeals Court Ruling in the interest of justice, equity, and clarity of law. We are currently awaiting leave to appeal to the SCC.
!!!WOMEN TAKE NOTE: this finding is a LEGAL precedent that means that an abusive spouse has no obligation under the law to provide accurate financial info. Banks and accountants are encouraged to deny the woman access to her own accounts and financial info.
Your mental/emotional state at the break up of the marriage is of no interest to the court, you are assumed to be equally as competent as your spouse/abuser. Abusers are not accountable for tormenting their spouses into submission.
Merely having access to professionals is sufficient to assume proper and competent legal and financial advice.
This decision should scare the hell out of every woman in Canada, and make every legal professional hang their head in shame.
!!!WOMEN TAKE NOTE: this finding is a LEGAL precedent that means that an abusive spouse has no obligation under the law to provide accurate financial info. Banks and accountants are encouraged to deny the woman access to her own accounts and financial info.
Your mental/emotional state at the break up of the marriage is of no interest to the court, you are assumed to be equally as competent as your spouse/abuser. Abusers are not accountable for tormenting their spouses into submission.
Merely having access to professionals is sufficient to assume proper and competent legal and financial advice.
This decision should scare the hell out of every woman in Canada, and make every legal professional hang their head in shame.
IN A NUTSHELL
Several people now have asked for a simple version of what this is all about. I sat down to write a "simple" version and found that harder to do than I thought. Like life in general, it's just not a simple thing. Did my best, though.
The nutshell version is this: Nanc was in an extremely abusive relationship for 27 years. She lived in near isolation on a dairy farm, and her church and community turns a blind eye to even obvious abuse. Her 2 youngest girls removed her from the farm in 2001 in a basically catatonic state. Nanc got a bit better, still suffering what her doctor termed “one of the most severe cases of PTSD” he had ever seen and he is a specialist in PTSD, and she commenced divorce proceedings. Her abuser provided all the financial info relied upon in negotiations, and we have subsequently proved he hid large amounts of money, the full extent will never be known. Now Nanc is absolutely brilliant in matters of the heart and family, but she never finished grade 10, she was never involved in the finances of the business. Nanc was in such a highly emotional state that she found that she was unable to see what was written on documents relating to the divorce. We now understand this to be a symptom of her PTSD. Nanc signed the agreement, relying on advice from an incompetent lawyer that she could revisit the agreement’s terms within a 2 year period. I came into her life about this time and introduced her to a competent lawyer, Jack Hittrich. Nanc went to court to have the agreement overturned. She testified to the circumstances in court and the trial judge found her credible and the agreement unconscionable.
The nutshell version is this: Nanc was in an extremely abusive relationship for 27 years. She lived in near isolation on a dairy farm, and her church and community turns a blind eye to even obvious abuse. Her 2 youngest girls removed her from the farm in 2001 in a basically catatonic state. Nanc got a bit better, still suffering what her doctor termed “one of the most severe cases of PTSD” he had ever seen and he is a specialist in PTSD, and she commenced divorce proceedings. Her abuser provided all the financial info relied upon in negotiations, and we have subsequently proved he hid large amounts of money, the full extent will never be known. Now Nanc is absolutely brilliant in matters of the heart and family, but she never finished grade 10, she was never involved in the finances of the business. Nanc was in such a highly emotional state that she found that she was unable to see what was written on documents relating to the divorce. We now understand this to be a symptom of her PTSD. Nanc signed the agreement, relying on advice from an incompetent lawyer that she could revisit the agreement’s terms within a 2 year period. I came into her life about this time and introduced her to a competent lawyer, Jack Hittrich. Nanc went to court to have the agreement overturned. She testified to the circumstances in court and the trial judge found her credible and the agreement unconscionable.
Friday, 21 September 2007
NEWS STORY FROM NYC
Interesting story from NYC. Striking similarities to Nanc's story, although it didn't end for her with murder, obviously. Her two youngest daughters packed her and her personal stuff into her car and drove her to a safe house. She was basically catatonic at that point.
http://www.nationnews.com/editorial/290184017300243.php
NATION NEWS
New York New York – No need to suffer domestic abuse
http://www.nationnews.com/editorial/290184017300243.php
New York New York – No need to suffer domestic abuse
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Nigel Gittens, a Barbadian attorney in Washington D.C. who once practised law in Massachusetts, was making a point about the fate of his sister Joycelyn Watson, who was killed by her husband in Brooklyn more than two years ago.
His message was straightforward: when a relationship becomes abusive, get out of it, even if means leaving the comfort of your own home.
"Don't stay in the home with an abuser," he advised women after his sister's funeral. "If I had known my sister's situation, I would never have allowed her to agree to live in the same house with him [her husband]."
The attorney hopes his advice will be enough to prevent other women and men from suffering a fate similar to his sister's – death at the hands of someone who says: "If I can't have you, no one else will."
The final chapter in the saga of Joycelyn and Remington Watson was written recently when a New York State Supreme Court judge, Mathew D'Emic, sent the abusive spouse to prison for 18 years after he had pleaded guilty to a manslaughter charge in a Brooklyn court. The husband, a soft drink salesman, had beaten his wife to death with a brick in their Brooklyn home in 2005, then stabbed her in the heart.
It was a relationship with a long history of spousal abuse, which the woman had hidden from her close relatives, including her brother. She had even gotten a court order of protection, but it may never have been served on the man, who continued to live in the house, even after divorce proceedings were started.
Familiar case
The case of the West Indian couple has become a familiar one to Charles Hynes, Brooklyn's District Attorney (DA) whose office prosecuted the case.
The DA has established a highly successful domestic abuse prevention programme designed to shield spouses from violence and it offers protection to immigrant women in the country illegally who are often verbally and or physically abused by their partners.
Domestic violence is at epidemic proportions in the West Indian immigrant communities in the city. It isn't difficult to see why. Immigrants from almost every nation in the region have grown up in an atmosphere in which men feel it is okay to beat women.
Peruse any human rights report on the Caribbean, especially the annual document prepared by the United States State Department and sent to the United States Congress, and a hard bit of reality stares you in the face.
Even after strict laws have been enacted to punish wrongdoers and hotlines and counselling programmes established, the scourge remains a fact of everyday life.
But the DA noted that people from the Caribbean aren't alone either as victims or perpetrators. Domestic violence cuts across ethnic and geographic boundaries.
"It's a problem in all groups," Hynes said in an interview in his office some time ago. "We want to make it easier for victims to come forward to get help."
That's what more Caribbean nations need to do: smooth the path for victims, men and women, to come out from the shadows of abuse
so they wouldn't end up as a statistic, much like Watson.
Wednesday, 19 September 2007
RESPONSE! SOMEONE ELSE DOES CARE
Well, the feelers we've been putting out have - perhaps - borne fruit. We were contacted today by a national umbrella group for women's issues. I sent them our factum and further info including the text of the decision by the BC Appeals Court, both of which are too long to post here. we'll gladly email them to interested parties. Our email is:
Tuesday, 18 September 2007
CONTACT DAY
Have spent the day contacting women's groups in BC and nationally. Last time I tried I must have had an old contact list, because 10 of 12 emails sent bounced. So far, no bounces and we sent about 15 out. Also tried to contact some respected feminist leaders. Hopefully one or more will see the implications and help us connect into feminist networks. Trying to create some buzz here, people need to look at this!
Monday, 17 September 2007
THIS IS THE WEEK
This is the week we launch our Supreme Court media campaign for Nanc's case. (see first post) We have some local interest, but we have to get the story out to the national media. Nanc is scared to death, based on her experience in the past, that no one does care about abused women, children, elderly, but I don't believe that. And yet, I have been pushing the Family Violence Education Initiative (see post 2) for about 4 years now, and we keep getting this "soft resistance" to it. Everyone says, "oh yes, this is so important and your idea makes sense" but nothing comes of it. No one has been willing to step up to the plate and promote the idea or raise the issue in public forae.
We have had numerous conversations about why it is so difficult for people to come to grips with this issue, and our best conclusion, and probably not the only one, is that people don't want to admit to themselves or others that it has happened to them, in their families, or to those they know. If they admit it, then it means that there is something wrong with their family. Also, If they admit there is a problem, they may have to take some action, which is typically a last resort that people have to be pushed into when things get so bad that lives are at stake. Unfortunately, that is sometimes too late.
This problem IS that pervasive in our society. Almost every single person that I have talked to over the last few years about this has had their own stories, and those that didn't probably could if they were willing. This issue is, perhaps, the last bastion of barbarism in North American society. Is that why we cling to it? Is the right to assault family members a final link to our animal selves?
Anyway, it's time to lock and load. We're going over the top.
We have had numerous conversations about why it is so difficult for people to come to grips with this issue, and our best conclusion, and probably not the only one, is that people don't want to admit to themselves or others that it has happened to them, in their families, or to those they know. If they admit it, then it means that there is something wrong with their family. Also, If they admit there is a problem, they may have to take some action, which is typically a last resort that people have to be pushed into when things get so bad that lives are at stake. Unfortunately, that is sometimes too late.
This problem IS that pervasive in our society. Almost every single person that I have talked to over the last few years about this has had their own stories, and those that didn't probably could if they were willing. This issue is, perhaps, the last bastion of barbarism in North American society. Is that why we cling to it? Is the right to assault family members a final link to our animal selves?
Anyway, it's time to lock and load. We're going over the top.
Sunday, 16 September 2007
SOLUTIONS: A FAMILY VIOLENCE EDUCATION INITIATIVE
Facts
- 200 000 women and 177 000 men reported abuse in 2000 in Canada
- The abused were children, spouses, and the elderly
- This represents about one in ten Canadians each and every year
- These are only those we know about. Abuse is severely underreported
- Many victims are unaware that what they suffer is abuse until informed by friends, relatives, or professionals. They believe “that’s just the way it is.”
- Once aware that they are in abusive relationships, victims are often advised or believe they should not report
1. to keep the family together at all costs
2. to avoid community or family knowledge of the situation
3. to protect the abuser
4. to protect their financial situation
5. to avoid retaliation by the abuser
6. because the abuser will never do it again
- Abusers almost always do it again and usually escalate their abuse over time
- Children raised in abusive families often become abusers themselves, even when they are not the direct victims of the abuse
- A large percentage of violent offences are committed by victims of abuse
- Victims frequently do not know what they can do about their situation
- Adult abusers rarely stop abusing
Needs
- Children must be taught
- to recognize abuse in all its forms
- that abuse is wrong
- what they can and should do about an abusive situation
- what a healthy relationship looks like
- A national commitment to actively address family violence
- Emphasis on stopping the cycle of violence for future generations
- Provide honest and impartial advice to victims
One Solution
A nationally mandated curriculum on family violence delivered to all Canadian children in both public and private schools. It can be delivered in an annual seminar/special assembly format by specially trained facilitators that travel from school to school. It must begin at the kindergarten level, and be targeted to the developmental level of the group. It should include dramatic enactments of healthy vs. abusive interactions so that children can recognize abuse when they see it.
Conclusion
There is no “quick fix” to the problem of family violence. Education of our children, however, does provide hope for future generations to be free from the cycle of violence.
THE LEGAL DEATH OF HOPE
On
The effect of this decision is to say to those women that matters of conscience, justice, equality, equity, and fairness, do not apply to them. It matters not that there was a power imbalance in the relationship, lack of sophistication of the victim, proven fraud on the part of the abuser, diagnosed and treated Post Traumatic Stress, and emotional fragility clearly demonstrated in court. If an abusive spouse can withhold information, hide money, and con you into signing a patently unfair agreement, you are done and no one cares.
Apparently British common law no longer works for women in
When the letter of statutory law becomes more important than the people it is meant to serve and protect, it is fatally flawed. We do not believe that it was the intent of those who drafted or enacted our laws that they be applied in such an unforgiving, inflexible, and unjust manner. We do not believe that it was the intent of legislators to deprive abused women of hope, and of their rights. The Charter of Rights, Freedoms, and Responsibilities speaks to a fundamental right to equality under the law. Does “equality” mean that an undereducated woman that has been kept in an isolated farm culture, where lack of real information or outright misinformation and tolerance of spousal abuse is the norm, stands before the court on an equal footing with her “husband”, a sophisticated wife beater that sits on numerous corporate and organizational boards? Is she equal when she signs documents that she cannot see, let alone understand? Does the Charter err in demanding equality for each man and woman vs. fairness in circumstance? We do not believe that the Charter excludes consideration of circumstances, but will leave that issue to scholars to debate. If it is true, then the Charter is fatally flawed as well.
This decision has created a legal precedent that offends every sense of conscience. It is a greater crime against humanity to kill an abused person’s hope, than to kill their body. Death of the body ends pain and suffering, death of hope makes pain and suffering a permanent condition. We are offended by conditions in
Ms. Rick has applied for leave to bring this matter before the Supreme Court of Canada, and the panel has been assigned to consider the application. The panel includes Chief Justice Beverly Maclachlin and Justices Charron and Rothstein.
Ms. Rick feels that it is a matter of national importance and wishes to know if the appeals court ruling is, in fact, the will of the Canadian justice system. She does not believe that “no one cares.” She asks that you review this decision and, if you decide that you do care, take action to let the Supreme Court of Canada know how you feel. Please circulate this message to others who may also care. The fundamental right of fair treatment of all abused women, and men, before the law is at stake.
This letter will form the body of both a press release and a campaign for support and public action from women’s groups across
Ms. Rick can be contacted at:
Link to SCC case info:
http://cases-dossiers.scc-csc.gc.ca/information/cms/docket_e.asp?32098
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